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2023-04-24

DEAR STUDENTS - teaching in Thailand today, remembering Vassar College classes

Dear Students, 

The term has ended and by now, you will probably have received your marks for my classes. I always say this at the start of a new term but it's easy to forget, especially if you received a less than stellar grade.

What is an F? 0
F stands for Failure but there is always a reason. How you handled the issue can make the difference between losing the money / time / effort you put in for the class or avoiding failure altogether. 

If you did not turn in your assignments or show up for the midterm or final exams, then what other grade can you expect? Why did that happen is more interesting. If you were ill, had an issue in your family, found that you hated studying or simply could not stand the teacher -  and you just disappeared and did not handle the problem, then you may deserve that F. 

What could you have done differently? Simply communicate with the teacher or talk to another teacher or an administrator. If you had done that, so much could have changed. Most teachers are kind souls and will negotiate. Most administrators will help you to figure out how to avoid failure with incompletes or withdrawals or other solutions. 

No teacher wants to see their students fail!

What is a D? 1
A "D" for darn it. Detrimental, even deletorius and damaging. At least to your gradepoint average. D's mean you maybe sometimes came to class but if you did make it, you sat in the back of the classroom and slept. You did not turn in all the assignments but maybe you showed up and did okay on the exams enough to squeak by. Or maybe you missed an assignment or exam and never bothered to ask the teacher for a chance to retake it or make it up somehow. Or maybe you never really were interested in the topic or the class. Head down on your desk, you let it all go by. Too bad.

What is a C? 2
C could be a lot of things but let's say "copaceptic" or "cooperative" or simply COOL. You are really doing OKAY in the class. In most universities across the planet, C is what is expected from students. C means you are doing just fine!

You do the work, you seem to pay attention most of the time. C means you are right in the middle - your work is the expected average. You are clearly above the D's and F's but maybe a bit below the B's and A's on your classwork.

Theoretically, statistically, the C - 75% is typically the average mean grade for the set of the whole class. If body language is a good way of telling how you are relating to a class, you are there in the chair but maybe doodling in your notebook as the minutes of the class tick by. But you're cool!

What is a B? 3
Bright, blessed, beneficial, befitting...B means your work is GOOD! When the teacher looks at you, they see someone who looks back. There is connection, communication, committment. Diligent, dutiful, you do all of your assignments really well! A "B" in a course, the world over, means you should be congratulated! You did it! You did more than was expected of the average student. You did GOOD (well).

What is an A? 4
I couldn't find any synonyms for "EXCELLENT" that start with the letter A. In nursery school, "A is for Apple." The "A" student might be "the apple of my eye" to a caring teacher. The "A" student leans forward - attentive, focused, participating. They may not look back at the teacher the way the Good B's do because they are too intent on the experience and creating something amazing out of it. 

Ardent, accomplished, astounding, awe-inspiring, just plain AWESOME. The "A" student surprises with work that is excellent and exceptional. An "A" is usually or should be reserved only for work that is truly exciting.

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My understanding of how grades really work dates back to one particular incident (and the accumulated wisdom of 18 years as a student and more than 45 as a teacher). In my junior year of college at one of the best schools in the US if not the world - Vassar College - I took a Shakespeare course. I adored every word of Shakespeare then and now but I was terrified of the teacher. And I thought I was going to fail the course.

Wearing a New York City Ballet t-shirt and a smug smile, Mr W would stand behind an elevated podium and point at those of us who stared up at him in awe. "What was Shakespeare saying here, Miss Fairservis?" he would ask in an affected RP accent, almost sarcastically. 

Many of us in that class of 25 had fought for the privilege to get into it. I sat for several days on a bench outside the registrars' office and finally did get off the waiting list and into the class.

The Shakespeare Class was a revelation. His lectures were brilliant; his use of the "Socratic Method" also brilliant but terrifying. For written assignments, we had 3 essays to do over the term. He had us compare Parts 1 and 2 of "Henry IV." There was a takehome midterm predicting what would happen in a play from an opening monologue (of course, I have forgotten which one). My predictions made sense though I had not read the play. And then I vividly recall working on 3rd assignment, a paper about "Romeo and Juliet." 

At the time, I was also taking another wonderful class called "The Epic in Translation" with a professor who had the classic studious school marm look, graying hair and round glasses, a delightful character. The epics were Homer's "Odyssey" and the "Iliad." We met on a Monday afternoon in a seminar room with comfy seats and couches and drank wine! How Greek or perhaps even more, how Roman! How many teachers today would bring wine to class?

The Epics course introduced me to Alfred Bates Lord's work, "The Singers of Tales," and the idea that storytellers through the ages found patterns and phrases to build upon to aid memorization and to structure their stories. "The wine dark sea" - that was Homer.

For many years, I had been fascinated by the concepts of Ritual Theatre. "The Golden Bough" - James George Frazier so excited me but also intimidated. Even more exciting and shorter was Theodor H. Gaster's "Thespis." It stuck in my young head - that there is a Seasonal Pattern that underscores rituals and is an essential structure for theatre or rather "theatrical productions."

So I lit into "Romeo and Juliet" to dig up all the seasonal references. Tybalt, "Prince of Cats," is hot tempered. Juliet is the sun and Romeo is the moon or at least the one who comes at night; the day / night cycle is essential to the structure of the play. Verona is in the midst of a very hot summer (presumably the London audience would be watching in the outdoor theatres in the summer months).
All the seasons - spring, summer, fall, winter - are there in the play. It's been many years since I studied it but I recall so clearly being swept into the energy of that process of discovery. Detective work really.

The problem was that doing all that archaeology was taking so long. There were only a certain number of pages that we were allowed to present - I think 5. And my paper was already 20 plus pages long. 

Bear in mind, too, that these were the days of typewriting on oilskin paper. My kind roommate allowed me to use hers. How wonderful that typewriters with a back key to correct errors had been invented.

Anyway, that wonderful brilliant Shakespearean scholar refused to accept my paper. But he did promise to read it over the Christmas holidays.

I thought I was going to fail the course and was ready to drop out. I was so frightened to go back into that classroom for a second term and have Mr W point at me. (By that time, I imagined his face rigid in a supercilious snarl).

So - what to do? I made an appointment with the Dean of the Students to get approval to drop the course.

Mr. Johnson was then dean. I remember he smiled at me. And he asked me if I loved Shakespeare. And if I had ever failed a course before. I don't really remember the exact magic or turn of phrase he used but I walked out of his office determined to "face the music" and go back for the second semester. Because I loved Shakespeare.

Here's the clever kicker. Mr W made the first semester grade PROVISIONAL. In other words, your grade for both semesters would be determined by how well you did the second term. The second semester grade would be what was recorded forever on your college transcript.

And so I went back to class in January's snows. And everything changed for the better.

King Arthur had the right idea with the Round Table. Our class had moved from a very formal and large hall with rigid seats in ruler-straight rows to a far smaller room where we were seated encircling a table. Now we could face each other and hear each other. Mr W came off his pedestal and now sat with us as an equal, though still clearly the king of the class.

Other students must have been as intimidated as was I in that first term. For the second term, the class had dropped from 25 to just 10 students. Which was wonderful!

Best of all, we had moved past the problematic comedies and histories to the tragedies. For the next few months, we reveled in the worlds of Lear, Hamlet, Othello and the Scottish play. Those were the finest hours of my college days.

The last play we studied was fittingly Shakespeare's last, "The Tempest." This was a play I already knew intimately from playing Ariel in a high school production. And so "where the bee sucks, there suck I" - I "sucked up" to use the modern phrase - and had the most wonderful time reprising my role and performing for the class final project.

The tagline to this story, of course, is that where I thought I had failed, instead I got the unattainable "A" which you can still see on my transcript from those memorable college days.












Copyright 2023TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

THINKING ABOUT "What do they eat?"

Living as an "expat" in Asia, every day has its adventure. Every day there's something new. Even though for months I have been holed up in an apartment. It's post-pandemic but now I get to experience what others did of near-total isolation. My pandemic experience was frightening but I never worried about running out of food or companionship because even the little groceries were nearby and open.

We are all watching the tragedy playing out in Ukraine. I have never been near a war - never hope to be. I have none of the daring genes of reporters and soldiers who risk their lives to tell and live the stories. But I have been deeply moved by thoughts of people isolated by war - trapped in subways or basements of their homes, trying to survive the chaos.

The London blitz - the many examples of man's inhumanity to man - the bombings in Afghanistan, the tearing apart of Sudan today when the entire diplomatic community had to be evacuated by special forces. 

And it all comes close to me when I think, "What do they eat?"

What I think about most, of course, is what is most relevant to me. I have been living for the last 10 months on a pretty remote university campus. There are none of the accustomed services: no taxis, no grab. No Food Panda or any other delivery. The campus itself is - most of the time - the quietest place I can recall living. 

My cupboard is getting bare. Just a few things left in the fridge. I need to get a hold of my friend who drives to take me shopping.

And I think about what I truly need. What can I get by on for another day or two or three? I have 1 egg, a can of tunafish. Plenty of instant coffee and teas. A few packs of instant soups. Some bread left.

I do have condiments - con-dementia! Ketchup, soy sauce (2 flavors), salt, pepper. 

I think about the homeless on the streets of New York, LA, or in Honolulu where I met "them" often in the Salvation Army and hanging outside the 7-11s. Instead of giving money when begged, I bought food and drink for those that asked for support. A ham sandwich and a can of coffee, maybe some chips on the side. Those few I may have helped for another day did seem grateful.

So what do we need "when all is said and done?" Like the meals I put together from forays to fresh markets, groceries and convenience stores, I crave variety. I like tasting something new. Though here in Thailand, it's usually spicy.

My mouth may say yes, but my stomach and intestines say no. No chilis, please.

There are staples that I find myself returning to every time - eggs, milk, bread, coffee. Maybe a few veggies for a salad or an onion or cauliflower or broccoli soup. I have become a pretty good soup maker. Maybe some fresh or frozen fruit - the beauty of living in the tropics.

What do you eat? What meal plan would you design for an astronaut or submarine soldiers? How about months at sea? Or "Surprise, surprise!" someone caught up in a disaster, natural or manmade?

What do they eat? What do they NEED to eat?


Copyright 2023, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

2023-04-11

FUNNY HOW THINGS COME IN THREES

There was an amber moon tonight. Something unusual. I rode my 3-wheeler after dark thru lampless sections of the road to 7-11 and it caught my eye. Not your usual ethereal moon but a deep orange that seemed almost malevolent. 

On my way out, I met a spotted cat. I have been missing cats so much. This cat came to me and rubbed against my leg. I have been missing that sense of need that gives me so much purpose. I have been missing the many many times I prowled the animal food aisle in search of bargains. So I bought a bag of cat food and plastic bowls to serve it in. 

On my return, there were 2 spotted cats - twins maybe? Funny how things come in threes.




Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

2023-04-09

REMEMBRANCE OF THINGS PAST - FOOD

What have been your favorite meals in your life? What do you remember?

Thanksgiving turkeys with stuffing. Jano's creamed onions - only once or twice a year. 
 Auntie Monna's "ambrosia" - fruit cocktail and marshmallows.

Christmas hams. Jenny's marzipan. Marilyn's quiches - and Elf's.

Mama Jano's lentils and ham soups at 1 am on the 1st day of the New Year - the culmination of New Year's Parties

Mema Grandma's clam chowder with clams she dug herself
Nantucket blueberries in pancakes with berries we children picked, wearing tin cans on strings around our necks.

Strawberry chablis soup on a steamy hot night in New York City at a jazz bar.

Daddy's Soul of Arabia soup - featured in Yankee Magazine - apricots and so much more.

Tapas at a Spanish bar with an extraordinary olive oil like no other - sitting outdoors in a cafe in Bangkok.

Lobster with Carol Sorgenfrei at the restaurant under a New York bridge - Queensboro maybe.

The best cheesecake in the world - JUNIOR's in Brooklyn when I lived walking distance from there and to BAM

My first glass of wine in a restaurant after ballet studies at La Crepe with Daddy and others from the AMNH - the crepes were good too!

The biggest buffet lunch ever at a hotel on the North Shore of Oahu when we lived (loved and were happy) in Honolulu - my ex biting into a cream-cheese filled crepe and sighing. Meanwhile, surfers were scaling huge waves just outside the window. Did that brunch several times!

Delaney's in Manhattan - an amazing steak as reward for driving across the US with Daddy from Seattle to New York

Most recently, Thai seafood with Mr Pom and Indian curries with Ajarn Steven.

I am sure there are others that may come to mind.

What tastes do you remember?






Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

2023-04-08

WHAT'S FOR DINNER?

What did you eat for dinner? I am so curious. My mother is 95 years old. She has been allergic to many foods - especially nightshades - and has been careful about what she eats. I know what she doesn't eat - tomatoes, eggplant (one of my favorites!), potatoes. I think she is mostly off glutens as well, except for the occasional cake baked and decorated by my amazing baker / acupuncturist / jane-of-all-things handy / artist sister. 

So what to eat? Tonight I looked up onions, potatoes and eggs as that's what I had in the house. And found the "how to" for a frittata. So that's what's I'm eating now. Microwaved frittata.

I guess my eating habits can now be classified as "flexitarian." I am trying to avoid eating mammals though the craving for a chain-manufactured beef burger can be irresistible. And I occasionally mistake pork dumplings for shrimp bao. Chicken and seafood of various kinds - and a lotta veggies.

What do you eat? I see so many people exerting control over their diets - to the point of near madness. 



Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

COOKING TIPS & TRICKS

So many little tricks to good cooking. What did your mother teach you? Your grandmother? Your dad, uncle or grandpa? Who fed you?

Some tricks I've picked up over the years. There used to be a TV tips show (trying to remember the name - not Hints from Heloise but like that).

TO KEEP SODA FROM GOING STALE - Just simply turn the bottle on its end before putting it back in the fridge. The deflated bottle will inflate and stay that way until the next time you want a drink.

VEGETABLES - Below ground "root" veggies should be started in cold water, then brought to the boil. Below ground examples: potatoes, sweet potatoes, 

  • Beets. Carrots. Radishes.Rutabaga.Turnips.

https://www.healthcastle.com/root-vegetables-are-full-of-good-carbs/
But above ground veg is to be dropped into boiling water, then when the water reaches boiling again, it can be reduced to simmer. That's true for pasta too.
Above ground: peas, beans, tomatoes, broccoli, cauliflower.


Will add more as I think of them.

MICROWAVING  Almost everything can be cooked in a microwave; there are even recipes for cakes and cupcakes. The main thing is ONLY use plastic or ceramic dishes, NEVER anything with metal.




Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

2023-04-03

REMINISCENCES OF ENGLISH TEACHINGS PAST - CHINA

Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

I have been teaching for a long time, maybe 50 years off and on. When I came to Asia in 2005, I had never taught English as a Second Language before. I was plunged into teaching adult Chinese engineers and medical professionals. But from the very first class, I realized I really did know how to do the job.

China at that time had amazing internet access to the world (not so much anymore I am told). Having almost no resources in the steel-and-iron factory city where I was stationed, I had no choice but to search the internet for how to teach English for beginners.

There was urgency and importance to the teaching of English. The doctors and nurses in the local hospital were providing Western medical treatments to the best of their abilities. Annually, American doctors from Florida would come over to share the latest in cardiac care. There needed to be correct understanding from both sides. Patients' lives were at stake.

The engineers worked in the dangerous setting of the steel mill. The equipment was provided by the German company, Siemanns. Germans would come to China to instruct the Chinese engineers in the use of the machinery = and both sides would communicate in English. Again, there was a real necessity for precise comprehension on both sides. We would hear periodically of factory workers at the steel mill dying in accidents. Workers' lives were at stake.

For me, it was sink-or-swim. I felt so blessed to have good internet access and to discover the world of English language resources available then. It took every bit of my past teaching experiences in the US and Japan and of my years of theatre work to try to figure out how to teach English in the Gobi Desert of northern China's Inner Mongolia.

I learned a lot! But I realized I did not have the full skill set. 

So on the day after the biggest sandstorm in 20 years hit, I knew I could not continue to stay in Baotou. I knew that I needed more training in TEFL - Teaching English as a Foreign Language. So I went online and found an American-run school in the gorgeous city of Suzhou not far from Shanghai where a few months later I went to do a full diploma. But that's another story...

Copyright 2010, TF (teviothome@gmail.com)

THE END OF A MARRIAGE
A short story inspired by watching the Korean Drama "World of the Married" 

How can I convey to you that knowingness, that sense of unreality, at the moment of the end of what I thought was "our marriage" but was really just "my marriage" which I lost?

It was midnight and I was standing in a telephone booth in the middle of an open square surrounded by low wooden houses - in Kyoto, Japan.

I called my husband in New York. We both lived and worked at a university there and stayed in the faculty wing of a student dormitory. 

I was studying Japanese dance in Kyoto that summer - so totally foreign to my years of Western dance but so surprisingly comfortable to me. People I met that summer would say things like, "Welcome back! I think we met in a past life." Dressed in full makeup, wig and $14,000 kimono for the final recital after weeks of sweaty work, a professional male performer looked at me in shock. He said, "Except for the blue eyes, you are Japanese."

And the man who was my husband told me that night over all-too-memorable long distance call that a graduate student --  a lovely blonde girl whose big breasts I had envied, a young woman who had been cleaning our apartment for us and had been inspired to arrange all the books by size on the shelves - so not the kind of brain that I understood - this woman had moved into our apartment. She would share the rent. And unspoken but later confirmed, she would share what had been "our" bed.

And the wave of knowingness came up. I knew with deep certainty that it was the moment of the end of the marriage. And at that very moment, I heard the sound of bells. Through the square came a parade of maybe 25 children. It was midnight - why were children out at that hour? They held up a box on poles on their shoulders. Inside I understood was a god who was being transported from one shrine to another. 

A god passed by me...or passed me by.

Like me, I thought then. Transported from who I was - or at least who I thought I was - to an entirely new set of circumstances. 

I stood in the phone booth caught between the two worlds: the American life I had known in New York and the strange world that I barely knew but loved in Japan. I did not and could not understand either one. 

I did not know where in the world I would ever fit. Or where I would ever find home again.

--- April 3, 2023 remembering a day in November, probably in 1992.